Divorce et al
You probably know of people who suffered the torments of hell going through divorce, and you also probably know people who pulled it off without much fuss. Why are some divorces sensible and others catastrophic?
The answer can depend, to a surprising extent, on just one factor: how much you rely on lawyers and courts to resolve troublesome issues. You do best if you and your spouse work out thorny issues together, with help from a neutral third person, if you need it.
It makes a lot of sense to hire a lawyer if there is a real problem with abuse — spousal, child, sexual, or substance. In that situation, a lawyer can help you get the arrangement you need to protect yourself and your children.
It can also make sense to hire a lawyer if your spouse is being dishonest or vindictive and you just can’t cope with it. In that case, you may need someone to protect your interests.
It’s also prudent to hire a lawyer if your spouse has an attorney. This is especially true if you have children or are facing complicated financial issues. It could be difficult and emotionally intimidating to go head to head with a seasoned pro.
The characteristics of a divorce lawyer are important to consider when seeking legal representation. Whether your divorce is highly contested or whether you are close to settling all or most of the major issues pertaining to your divorce such as child custody, visitation, division of property, and support, the following characteristics of a prospective divorce lawyer should be considered:
• Proactive nature
• Willingness to negotiate
• Problem-solving skills